How to get your avoidant ex back

Learn what to do after an avoidant breakup, how to respond when your ex reaches out, and how to rebuild into healthy love so you don't go through this heartbreak again. Use code 15love at checkout to get this course for only $84.15

Stop Sabotaging Your Chances Of Getting Them Back

Learn what to do after an avoidant breakup, better understand their mind and why they keep pushing you away, and mistakes you're making that sabotage getting them back.

When They Text, Know What To Do

Prepare for the message you've been hoping for. Learn how to respond, pace reconnection, and recognize the difference between effort, manipulation, and games.

Rebuild To Healthy Love

Learn how to approach reconnection, reduce shutdown during conflict, and move towards a healthier form of love with your avoidant partner.

About the course

A breakup with an avoidant can make you feel like you’re losing your mind. One minute they loved you. The next, they shut down, pulled away, and seem completely fine without you, while you’re left analyzing every text, every silence, and every sign that they might come back. This course is designed to help you move forward. You’ll learn what is actually happening inside an avoidant after a breakup, why they shut down, why they can appear happier or more relieved at first, whether they really miss you, and how their nervous system and attachment style influence the way they handle distance, intimacy, and loss. This course helps you to better understand their mind, what's really going on when they go silent, and signs you need to look out for when it comes to rebuilding. More importantly, you’ll learn how to stop the anxious behaviors that can accidentally push them further away. And if reconciliation becomes possible, you’ll know how to approach it differently so you’re not simply rebuilding the same relationship that already broke and instead building something that lasts. This isn’t about playing games to manipulate your ex into coming back. It’s about understanding the psychology behind the breakup, stopping the behaviors that sabotage you, taking your power back, and becoming capable of creating a relationship that is healthier, safer, and more secure, whether that ultimately happens with your ex or someone better suited for you. Stop chasing answers from your avoidant. Start understanding what’s actually happening.

Angelika Koch

Angelika Koch has been featured as a relationship, breakup, and dating expert in over 60 global publications such as Cosmopolitan, Bustle, Business Insider, Reader’s Digest, Newsweek, Ask Men, Well & Good, Fortune, Vice, and more. Koch has also served as the relationship and breakup expert for The Taimi Dating App since 2021, where she offers advice to individuals seeking guidance in love and relationships.is a Master Certified Life Coach and Certified Relationship Coach specializing in relationship coaching, breakup coaching, communication, attachment patterns, self-worth, boundaries, and personal growth. Her work focuses on helping clients heal from heartbreak, navigate difficult relationships, rebuild confidence, and create healthier, more secure connections. She herself was a fearful avoidant and worked her way into becoming a secure attachment. Angelika Koch is also the author of the popular book The Asshole Pandemic: A Field Guide to ID'ing, Deleting, and Healing From Toxic Relationships, and "Rebuilding What You Broke."

The syllabus

6 Chapters · 37 Lessons

1. (Included in full purchase)
  Introduction
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  Understanding How Avoidant Attachment Forms
2. (Included in full purchase)
  Understanding Dismissive Avoidant
3. (Included in full purchase)
  Understanding Fearful Avoidant
4. (Included in full purchase)
  Understanding Anxious Attachment
5. (Included in full purchase)
  Understanding The Nervous System
6. (Included in full purchase)
  What Is Avoidant Shutdown
7. (Included in full purchase)
  Why They Tried Less When You Asked For More
8. (Included in full purchase)
  Will They Give The Next Person The Love You Begged For?
1. (Included in full purchase)
  The Biggest Mistake You're Making
2. (Included in full purchase)
  Why Chasing Them Pushes Them Away
3. (Included in full purchase)
  Should You Be Friends With Them
4. (Included in full purchase)
  Do They Miss You?
5. (Included in full purchase)
  You're Making It Worse By Doing This
6. (Included in full purchase)
  You'll Regret Doing This
7. (Included in full purchase)
  Effort, Games, And Manipulation
1. (Included in full purchase)
  The Change That is Needed
2. (Included in full purchase)
  Reversing Avoidant Attachment Through Neural Plasticity
3. (Included in full purchase)
  Working Through Defensiveness
1. (Included in full purchase)
  How To Get Through The Pain
2. (Included in full purchase)
  Saying This Makes It Easier For Them To Leave Again
3. (Included in full purchase)
  Why Accommodating Them Can Ruin Things
4. (Included in full purchase)
  Following Them On Social Media
5. (Included in full purchase)
  Building Your Dream Life
1. (Included in full purchase)
  When Your Avoidant Ex First Reaches Out
2. (Included in full purchase)
  A Healthy Reconnection Plan
3. (Included in full purchase)
  The 90-10 Rule
4. (Included in full purchase)
  Supporting Your Avoidant Partner Without Losing Yourself
5. (Included in full purchase)
  Don't Get Back With Them If They Do This
6. (Included in full purchase)
  Determining Toxicity
7. (Included in full purchase)
  How Rushing Destroys Things
8. (Included in full purchase)
  What To Do When They Under Function / Breadcrumb
9. (Included in full purchase)
  A Mistake You're Making During Arguments
10. (Included in full purchase)
  Reducing Shutdown During Arguments
11. (Included in full purchase)
  Navigating Avoidant Disengagement & Shutdown
12. (Included in full purchase)
  Reducing Over Functioning in the Future
13. (Included in full purchase)
  Learning Healthy Communication

What people are saying

How people just like you have benefitted from this course.

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Thank you for saving my relationship. I didn't realize how close I was to sabotaging getting back my ex until I went through this course. My ex and I are now back together and happier than ever.

Cindy R.

Boston, MA

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Finally a course that has accurate information about avoidance. I was convinced my ex was a narcissist but after watching this series I realized what was actually going on. We are now starting to work through things and able todo it in a healthy way.

Freddy M.

Chicago, IL

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I never understood why my partner was like this and in the ENTIRE relationship I felt lost and alone. After going through this course I now better understand my --no longer an ex and we have been able to have better conversations for the first time in years.

Rebecca S.

Starr, SC

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I thought all hope was lost and that my avoidant ex can never get better. He kept begging for me back but I just didn't feel like I could after what he put me through. This course not only helped me to understand why he behaved the way he did, but also explained how he can become healthier! I have hope for our relationship and we are starting to work through things.

April V.

Long Beach, CA

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Have you ever thought to yourself, "Why are you so damn hot and cold?" This course helped me to better understand my ex and help us to work through things. I now know how to be a safer partner for her.

Tom P.

Lorton, VA

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I needed answers and I needed them badly. I was tired of scrolling through social media, only to get people who told me there was no way forward and to just get over him. I couldn't. He is the love of my life. This course helped me to better understand why he kept pushing me away and ways I can be safer for him. I am so grateful I got this. If you're in need of answers, you need to get this course. It will help you so much.

Candice K.

Seattle, WA

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I thought my ex was cold and cruel because of how she acted when she left. This course helped me to see that no, she wasn't. She was just activated, and gave me a path to move forward. I no longer feel stuck and I am confident that we can rebuild this relationship into something that is much safer.

Jim O.

Las Vegas, NV

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